At Hygge Sheets we have a passion for understanding our customers and their experiences. We have been talking to people who have experienced bedwetting in childhood so we can really understand how they felt and offer to advice to other parents, teenagers and children. 

Its our passion to make bedwetting a more talked about subject through education and awareness. 

This is a real life account of a girl who has experienced bedwetting up to the age of 17

Bedwetting and Mental Health

As long as I can remember I've wet the bed at nights, mostly never waking up when I uses to do it.  Only now as a 17 year old have I stopped , this has really affected me mentally over the years . I used to always feel like there was something wrong with me, especially when my younger siblings were dry at night and they were younger.  My mental health used to suffer as Id feel like I wasn't normal. I couldn't go on school trips, sleepovers  - bedwetting definitely held me back from doing alot not only as a child, but a teenager too.

"I used to always feel like there was something wrong with me, especially when my younger siblings were dry at night and they were younger"

Bedwetting Nurses

One time, I finally had a boyfriend sleep over and had a accident, I was so upset, worried and pretended I'd split a drink on him. My mum quickly had to switch mattresses with my younger sibling so when my boyfriend came back in from getting changed he didn't notice the smell etc. This really knocked my confidence and mental health alot.  I've had to have therapy to help over come past issues like this. The doctors were not very helpful at first, saying its normal and in some cases, children can be wet at night until late teens.  I felt lonely at times.  My mum asked about other help to bed wetting nurses who understood more.

The investigation into different bedwetting solutions continued...

I used bedwetting alarms, but as I never really woke up when I had wet the bed, they didn't work and would wake my mum up and by the time she got to me I was wet. I've tried medication, which at first did help and reduce the amount I would wee at night,  but the side affects made me sick and affected my tummy so they recommended I came off them.  When I turned 16 the doctor finally referred me to the continence nurses at the hospital, who have been amazing. They discovered my bladder was only holding 110ml of water, so we tried some drinking charts and have done a input and output chart, to try and naturally stretch my bladder.

"When I turned 16 the doctor finally referred me to the continence nurses at the hospital, who have been amazing"

Because I was so nervous about wetting the bed i'd stop drinking so much which meant my bladder shrunk. Without knowing it I was making the situation worse. I've been on some medication which has helped and changed my life, I now no longer bed wet every night, I do still occasionally when I'm stressed or have drunk lots of fizzy or juice.

Supportive Parents and Bedwetting

My mum was amazing, never made me feel bad and always supported me . Unfortunately my father and step mum weren't so understanding and used to get mad about having to wash the sheets, made me so stressed and uncomfortable I actually stopped going.  I think more support for children and parents of children who bed wet would help adults understand more and be more supportive to children who bed wet alot.

"I think more support for children and parents of children who bed wet would help adults understand more and be more supportive to children who bed wet alot."

The genetic link around bedwetting

My mum used to always say we have a genetic link, as her brother was wet at night until early teens, and her mum until early teens too. This was reassuring, until I got to about 14 , then they was both dry at 14ish so I then felt deflated and like I was going to wet the bed for the rest of my life.

Some doctors/nurses believed in a genetic link and was helpful explaining about a hormone in the brain which isn't working properly and that was why I didn't even wake up when I'd wet the bed. But others would dismiss my mum, saying she would grow out of it and is lazy, or not drinking enough. I definitely think there is a link and shouldn't be dismissed by doctors especially when you are seeking help over something that is embarrassing and emotionally draining the older you get. 

Reward systems didn't help for bedwetting

My mum used to have a box under the bed with clean beadsheets and pyjamas, so was less disruption in the middle of the night, and I then didn't feel so bad. Reassure the child/ teen that there is nothing wrong with them and one day they will be dry. Charts made me feel deflated as I was really trying but this was made me feel more pressure.
What advice would you offer to parents, caregivers, and educators who are currently supporting a child dealing with bedwetting? 
"To be kind , and never make the child/teen feel its their fault."
Hygge Sheets thank you for the opportunity to speak to you and find out about your journey. We hope that your story will help others and make them feel less alone.